Having a relationship intact on campus is both rewarding and challenging. One has to balance their academic life with personal life. Most of the time, it calls for discretion on what is said about your relationship to others. Here are key things you should keep private about your campus relationship:
1. Personal Conflicts
Every relationship goes through its share of ups and downs, but the details of your personal conflicts need not be shared with friends or classmates. There is so much potential for useless gossip and misunderstandings to rise from it. Problems between two of you are better solved by yourselves or with the advice of a trusted confidant rather than making it public.
2. Intimate Details
The very private moments of your life and personal conversations are just that—personal. Relaying explicit details about the physical relationship can be not only uncomfortable for others, but it is also a disrespect to the partner. Keep the intimacy confidential to keep the mutual respect and trust.
3. Financial Matters
Where money is brought into the picture, be it who pays for dates or what type of financial status your partner is in, there may be judgment and unwarranted opinions. Keep the financial discussions between you and your partner only, making sure neither of you feels uncomfortable or disrespected.
4. Insecurities and Weaknesses
Everybody has insecurities and weaknesses, and it can be very destructive to share your partner’s vulnerabilities with others. What is needed is to protect each other’s dignity and to build up on each other rather than expose things about personal struggling to the whole world.
5. Future Plans and Decisions
This includes discussion of future plans like marriage or cohabiting. Telling everyone too soon can put pressure from friends and family onto you both, and that can be detrimental to your relationship dynamics.
6. Past Relationships
Bringing up old relationships can only bring in drama and comparisons. It’s all about living in the present with your current partner and not bringing in certain personal experiences from your past, which might bring in bad feelings or insecurities.
7. Partner’s Personal Issues
If your partner has personal problems, be it family issues, health problems, or academic pressures, these are not yours to reveal. Respect their privacy and stand by them without bringing in third parties unless they explicitly give the green light to do so.
8. Frank Opinions
Sharing with friends your unfiltered opinions regarding your partner’s habits, appearance, or decisions will only lead to possible misunderstandings and conflicts. Discuss these issues directly with your partner in a constructive way rather than gossiping behind his back.
9. Secrets and Private Information
If your partner has shared any secret or personal information with you, consider it your duty to not share it with anyone. Breaking the trust in this matter can never be repaired or healed and will eventually cause devastating harm to the relationship.
10. Comparisons with Other Couples
Try to avoid discussing how your relationship stands as compared to other couples, especially on the negative side. Every relationship is different, and comparisons can only bring undue stress and may raise unrealistic expectations.
Conclusion
The most basic thing in keeping a campus relationship healthy and long-term is privacy and discretion. Keeping these private will bring about more respect, building a stronger bond between you and your partner, avoiding drama and problems that are not necessary. Take time building a strong base of trust and effective communication. Remember that there are some things in a relationship that are best kept between two people only.
